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The following are a few tips on checking out online and offline dating:

- You have to give the impression that you are positive, wealthy, powerful, (and tender in private with her). If you don’t have these characteristics, fake them. Women need to see potential, and the origin of the word potential is the Latin ‘potentia’, meaning power.

- Most important: You must not embarrass your date publicly. Women hate to be the centre of attention for the wrong reasons. If you’re play-acting like a little boy or an unpleasant brute you’re using up your credit every second that ticks by.

- A effective source of research is the magazine rack in your local supermarket. Men should look at womens’ magazines, and the other way around. Men will observe that women fantasise about men who are: Pretty-boys, slim, sinewy (like a swimmer, not a weight-lifter), fashionably attired, patrician, tight-fitting trousers, thoughtful, wealthy, powerful, positive, popular, makes her laugh, takes control, can talk over his feelings occasionally, yet isn’t a wet dish-cloth.

- Some women yearn for a man who is ‘macho’, bullying, even a little bit cruel. Accent on the little bit. You keep her attention by appearing to be complicated and unpredictable. You may act tyrannical, dominating, even a little sadistic. Check her reactions closely when you do. If she takes pleasure in submitting to you, a spark in her eye, a suddenly more positively charged response to you; you may be dealing with a woman who unfortunately has a masochistic motivation to be maltreated and mastered. If such conduct comes easily to you, it can be very efficacious with pleasing such a woman. One caveat; masochists like their pain on THEIR terms ultimately. You’ll need to take your cue from her, not just shove her about indiscriminately. Moderation is key here.

- Don’t over-think it. We are drawn to a certain type, with whom we can make a better baby; more robust, fitter, smarter, better adjusted to its environment. Other types just don’t click with us, ‘though we can acknowledge intellectually they are attractive. It’s a heart thing, a guts thing, and parts lower down. The head merely gives its assent to a decision already made.

- Race, religious belief and nationality are significant. Feckless twenty-somethings think they aren’t. Married thirty-somethings find they are, to their grief. When you marry someone, you unite two families. Somewhere down the line race, religion or nationality will become _very_ important. Of these three, I think religion is the most important; it affects fundamental beliefs about the nature of the cosmos and your place in it. In Catholicism, for example, the Catholic in a mixed marriage has to give an undertaking to rear any children as Catholics. If you don’t cover that issue before marrying, you have set the timer on a bomb which could damage or break-up your marriage. A non-religious Muslim may re-discover his faith in his 40’s; this could be a big problem for his non-Muslim wife. If your in-laws are of a different religion and you require their help or they start interfering in your marriage… forget Hollywood; it produces lies and fantasy. You don’t live in an urban, disconnected bubble when you get married, unlike young singles who ’shack up’ together. This is why Catholics have a six-month lead-in period to marriage; if their priest is a conservative and thoroughgoing, they will be asked some searching questions before they can walk down the aisle. And a good thing too! The world doesn’t need any more divorces and fatherless children, and the misery such things cause.

- Romance: Champagne, moonlight, soft words eloquently uttered, and flowers are arousing to most women. Those who try to get on with women, and talk easily about their pre-occupations, are more successful with women, than less thoughtful types.

- Find someone who lives or works near you. A ten-mile radius is about the limit; five or less is better. If you can’t meet each other easily you don’t have a relationship; it’s harder to go to a pub or a coffee shop or just go for a walk together spontaneously. Long-distance relationships only work for married people, for a short time; even then, soldiers still get divorced or the missus commits adultery or he does.

I hope these few beginner pointers will assist you in finding a nice girl through online or offline dating.

About the author: Nick Svengali is an author for dating service and personal development web sites in London, Great Britain.